Seniors and Carers

Carers

Caring for a sick and elderly family member in decline is one of the most emotionally and physically difficult undertakings in life. When an aged person is caring for a spouse with Alzheimer's, the emotionally and physically difficulties are enormous.

The carer has difficulty processing the grief of the eroding of the personality they loved, because of the inherent ambiguity and the enormous quantity of practical work involved in keeping the carer and the patient going. In addition, the carer faces:

• The loss of independence and the life they once knew.
• The loss of a sole-mate and companion.
• The frustration and anger at the patient's struggle and behaviours.
• The struggle managing with one's own aging and health issues whilst being the primary carer.
• The difficulty in finding appropriate respite care or nursing homes options.

The Patient

The patient initially struggles with coming to think about an unthinkable diagnosis. Counselling can assist in managing difficult emotions in the early stages of Alzheimer's. Later, the patient's humanity can become the causality in the management of their safety and physical needs. Who stops to think about: What is the emotional message behind stories they repeat? What is the trigger for their increased agitation? Why are they escaping from their care environment?

Working with carer and patient

Thinking about the emotional needs of both carer and patient improves the quality of life for both. Patient's aggressive or uncooperative or agitated behaviour can be reduced by carefully observing the emotional climate and triggers. Providing an emotional support for the carer can help them process the complexity of the situation they face. Counselling in one's home and consultations in nursing homes are available where otherwise access to this type of service would be very difficult.